Letting Go Series
We sometimes find ourselves saying something on the order of:
The truth is that there are very few situations in life where we are so completely powerless and stuck that nothing can be changed.
In most cases we can make fundamental changes that can transform our lives for the better. Our problem is with our self-limiting belief systems that keep us and hold us in place, even though a situation harms us emotionally and may even cause us physical pain from stress and tension.
Most people who have made significant and lasting change in their lives, do not look back and say: I wish I still had that terrible job, that harmful relationship or that intolerable stress in my life.
Every day the door is open for us to stand up and walk through when we are ready to change the parts of our lives that are no longer working for us. We can think our options through thoroughly, make a complete plan, step through the door and begin to set ourselves free.
Letting Go Series
The human mind is an amazing machine capable of great thought and ideas, but it can also create a fantasy world that may set us up for unnecessary failure.
Plans and goals are positive and useful tools to help us navigate life, but cementing plans and goals as expectations is dabbling in magical thinking that leads us to needless suffering.
Thoughts about what the future holds are just notions that we create in our minds and are not a part of the real world. When we choose to decide that these thoughts WILL happen, WHEN we imagine them, HOW we imagine them, we are setting unreasonable expectation that may never be delivered. We take a thought and turn it into our demand on the world. Sadly, we do not run the world and every attempt to decide how the world will be exactly ends in sadness and longing. Longing for things that in the end, may never have been right for us or not ever had the ability to bring us happiness.
Life is an amazing journey of twists, turns and opportunities:
Letting Go Series
Sometimes we find ourselves repeatedly disappointed in another person’s behavior. Perhaps we make excuses for them. “This will never happen again”, “They were having a bad day”, “I’m sure they understand this is unacceptable”, etc.
Sometimes those kinds of thoughts that we have about that person may be true, but other times our experience tells us that we can not depend on them in the way we desire. The practical experience we have with this person becomes the knowledge of what we can expect in the future. This is where we must use our knowledge of them and see them with our fresh eyes. This fresh view allows us to see what is true.
It doesn’t mean they are failing us on purpose or that they are thoughtless or unkind. This is simply the way they are in the world and we should accept them for what they are. We now have this view, which we can use to put away previous expectations of them and stop our self-inflicted cycle of disappointment.
We all fall short from time, so we may disappoint others in our lives from time to time as well. We’re only human and need to give ourselves grace, as we do for others.
How should we move through life, should we be tough, flexible, ethereal?
We can be all of those things and use the correct approach dependent on our current circumstances.
Water or H2O's shape shifting ability is the perfect analogy for the choices we can make in terms of our own behaviors.
H2O is undoubtedly one of the most amazing substance on Earth, and it demonstrates the power of being the way it needs to be in the world.
Obviously, water has several forms, liquid, solid and gas states, which are dependent upon on the current temperature and other atmospheric conditions.
If we think about the many obstacles we face in life, whether it is another person, our own actions or just fate, we have choices about how we will react to these challenges.
If we have a current difficult situation, we could do several things to in order to deal with it.
Being ice is a tactic that may need to be employed occasionally, but it is very hard on us and will leave us feeling exhausted by always doing battle and taking a beating over time.
Being water gives us options for getting over, under or around difficulties that we find in our path. Water is able to flow by seeking different routes to get where it wants to go. Being like water allows us to think about problems in diverse ways to resolve problems and achieve our goals.
Being steam may be the only strategy that will work to resolve a very tough situation. Removing yourself entirely from a dangerous, frightening or unsolvable situation and moving into a better environment is the best move in some cases.
We all get stuck at times and feel there is no way to change our current circumstances, but thinking about ourselves as H2O with various properties allows us to reflect on our choices and the possible decisions that we always have available to us. There are very few situations in life where we have no other options to choose from. We need to take account of what is potentially available to us, make the best decision and continue to make our way in the world.
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There are many ways that we can get stressed by life and sometimes it is not easy, if not impossible to avoid it, but we do have control over the Social Media we consume and those we allow to be a part of it.
In 1997 one of the very first Social Media networks was launched, named the Six Degrees profile uploading service in 1997. Ever since that time, hundreds of Social Media networks ventures have been pushed out into the world.
Social Media can be informative, entertaining and a way to connect with others, but there are negative aspects we should think about.
These networks can waste time and create a lot of different negative feelings. We may find that we don't have enough time to do what we need to get done during the day; that we aren't spending enough time with friends or family; or that we don't have enough free time to ourselves, so we have to ask ourselves how much of our valuable time should we give to Social Media.
How many Social Media networks do we belong to and how many is too many? Being active in many Social Media networks eats up our days or evenings, may keep us from achieving what is important to us and may degrade our personal relationships with our loved ones, family, friends and with the communities in which we live in.
Social Media networks we joined years ago may no longer be relevant to our lives today, but habit keeps us going back, wasting our precious time and getting little or nothing out of it.
Some Social Media networks that we visit don't really please us, they make us sad or angry or contribute nothing to our lives, but habit forces us into this unpleasant tasks.
In Social Media networks where we choose our communities, some of the people we have allowed into our groups cause us to feel unsettled, embarrassed, angry or dispirited. Social Network applications are not friendships, they are not family relationships, they are just online groups, which we have the power to control and we should.
In Spring we sometimes think about Spring cleaning, and we should also consider our online lives and the task of clearing out our Toxic Social Media (TSM).
First published on the Quora space Mind-Body and Chronic Pain
Mind Mining is a method for defusing stress before it creates tension and pain (Tension-Based Pain) in our bodies. This exercise is a positive loop, using what we know about ourselves and our lives, and it allows us to use that intel to make our future better.
Our days unfold quickly and before we know it the day is done, however there is a lot of information collected during our waking hours that we can hack and turn to our advantage.
Here is a sample Mind Mining technique that takes an interaction that did not go well, and redevelops it to achieve peace.
SAMPLE: I had a negative conversation with my boss today and I know I was right, but it quickly got heated. She said the production numbers were down for the last quarter and I said “That’s not true, the numbers are up” and she immediately got very defensive and wouldn’t let me explain.
After your Mind Mining exercise, you reveal who important things about this is situation:
Not every situation can be resolved with this type method, but the more we can engineer our interactions to end in success - the easier our lives will be.
It can be helpful to write down what you’ve learned during the Mind Mining Process, so you can review it in the future and see how it has helped daily life going forward.
Mind Mining can be done by almost anyone and is a simple technique for reducing stress in advance to avoid the tension and pain it may create in our bodies in the future.
The supraspinatus muscle in the shoulder is a quite small muscle and it may not be the only muscle that is tightened in the joint.
As with any muscular rigidity, we have to ask ourselves, what is the cause of involuntary tightened muscles in the body? They are induced by a reaction triggered by the autonomic nervous system (ANS), specifically the Sympathetic component of the nervous system.
There is no other mechanism for this condition in the body.
Read more here on the Quora space: Anatomy&Physiology Forum
After trying every conventional therapy for crippling, chronic low-back pain, I discovered the problem was completely within my control. I experienced an amazing health transformation in a matter of weeks. Mind-Body medicine worked for me, and it can for can too!