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4/25/2021

Choosing Our nature

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How should we move through life, should we be tough, flexible, ethereal?

We can be all of those things and use the correct approach dependent on our current circumstances.

Water or H2O's shape shifting ability is the perfect analogy for the choices we can make in terms of our own behaviors.
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H2O is undoubtedly one of the most amazing substance on Earth, and it demonstrates the power of being the way it needs to be in the world.

Obviously, water has several forms, liquid, solid and gas states, which are dependent upon on the current temperature and other atmospheric conditions.

If we think about the many obstacles we face in life, whether it is another person, our own actions or just fate, we have choices about how we will react to these challenges.

If we have a current difficult situation, we could do several things to in order to deal with it.
  • BE ICE - Harden ourselves, get brittle and stand our ground no matter what comes. 

  • BE WATER - Move, change shape, meander and find a way around the situation.
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  • BE STEAM - Choose to quickly remove yourself from the situation and be done with it.

Being ice is a tactic that may need to be employed occasionally, but it is very hard on us and will leave us feeling exhausted by always doing battle and taking a beating over time.

Being water gives us options for getting over, under or around difficulties that we find in our path.  Water is able to flow by seeking different routes to get where it wants to go. Being like water allows us to think about problems in diverse ways to resolve problems and achieve our goals.
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Being steam may be the only strategy that will work to resolve a very tough situation. Removing yourself entirely from a dangerous, frightening or unsolvable situation and moving into a better environment is the best move in some cases.

We all get stuck at times and feel there is no way to change our current circumstances, but thinking about ourselves as H2O with various properties allows us to reflect on our choices and the possible decisions that we always have available to us. There are very few situations in life where we have no other options to choose from. We need to take account of what is potentially available to us, make the best decision and continue to make our way in the world.

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4/21/2021

Cleaning Up Your Toxic Social Media (TSM)

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There are many ways that we can get stressed by life and sometimes it is not easy, if not impossible to avoid it, but we do have control over the Social Media we consume and those we allow to be a part of it. 

In 1997 one of the very first Social Media networks was launched, named the Six Degrees profile uploading service in 1997. Ever since that time, hundreds of Social Media networks ventures have been pushed out into the world. 
Social Media can be informative, entertaining and a way to connect with others, but there are negative aspects we should think about.

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These networks can waste time and create a lot of different negative feelings. We may find that we don't have enough time to do what we need to get done during the day; that we aren't spending enough time with friends or family; or that we don't have enough free time to ourselves, so we have to ask ourselves how much of our valuable time should we give to Social Media.

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How many Social Media networks do we belong to and how many is too many? Being active in many Social Media networks eats up our days or evenings, may keep us from achieving what is important to us and may degrade our personal relationships with our loved ones, family, friends and with the communities in which we live in.

CONFLICT

Social Media networks we joined years ago may no longer be relevant to our lives today, but habit keeps us going back, wasting our precious time and getting little or nothing out of it.
Some Social Media networks that we visit don't really please us, they make us sad or angry or contribute nothing to our lives, but habit forces us into this unpleasant tasks.

In Social Media networks where we choose our communities, some of the people we have allowed into our groups cause us to feel unsettled, embarrassed, angry or dispirited. Social Network applications are not friendships, they are not family relationships, they are just online groups, which we have the power to control and we should.

In Spring we sometimes think about Spring cleaning, and we should also consider our online lives and the task of clearing out our Toxic Social Media (TSM). 

Focus on:
  • Time - How much of your own time on this planet do you want to devote to Social Media?
  • Value - What is the value of these Social Media interactions, what can you let go of that you will not even miss?
  • Conflict - What are the changes you can make to your Social Media spheres that would make them more relaxed, fun an enjoyable?
Reducing our levels of stress is something we can control and our Social Media lifestyle could be a big part of that. Take some time to review and make some positive changes to reap the rewards of healthy social media ecosystem!

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First published on the Quora space Mind-Body and Chronic Pain

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4/18/2021

Mind Mining

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Mind Mining is a method for defusing stress before it creates tension and pain (Tension-Based Pain) in our bodies. This exercise is a positive loop, using what we know about ourselves and our lives, and it allows us to use that intel to make our future better.

Our days unfold quickly and before we know it the day is done, however there is a lot of information collected during our waking hours that we can hack and turn to our advantage.

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Here is a sample Mind Mining technique that takes an interaction that did not go well, and redevelops it to achieve peace.

SAMPLE:  I had a negative conversation with my boss today and I know I was right, but it quickly got heated. She said the production numbers were down for the last quarter and I said “That’s not true, the numbers are up” and she immediately got very defensive and wouldn’t let me explain.

After your Mind Mining exercise, you reveal who important things about this is situation:
  1. You’ve learned your boss does not handle being corrected very well.
  2. You discover the need to provide facts in a way that your boss can more easily accept.
So instead of saying “That’s not true, the numbers are up”, you could say “You’re right, it does appear that way, but when you look at the sales numbers you can see that ...” This approach delivers the needed information in a way that is helpful and non-threatening to your boss. This type of strategy is a win-win for you and your boss.

Not every situation can be resolved with this type method, but the more we can engineer our interactions to end in success - the easier our lives will be.

It can be helpful to write down what you’ve learned during the Mind Mining Process, so you can review it in the future and see how it has helped daily life going forward.

Mind Mining can be done by almost anyone and is a simple technique for reducing stress in advance to avoid the tension and pain it may create in our bodies in the future.
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