See with Fresh Eyes

Letting Go Series

Sometimes we find ourselves repeatedly disappointed in another person’s behavior. Perhaps we make excuses for them. “This will never happen again”, “They were having a bad day”, “I’m sure they understand this is unacceptable”, etc. ​

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Sometimes those kinds of thoughts that we have about that person may be true, but other times our experience tells us that we can not depend on them in the way we desire. The practical experience we have with this person becomes the knowledge of what we can expect in the future. This is where we must use our knowledge of them and see them with our fresh eyes. This fresh view allows us to see what is true.
It doesn’t mean they are failing us on purpose or that they are thoughtless or unkind. This is simply the way they are in the world and we should accept them for what they are. We now have this view, which we can use to put away previous expectations of them and stop our self-inflicted cycle of disappointment.
We all fall short from time, so we may disappoint others in our lives from time to time as well. We’re only human and need to give ourselves grace, as we do for others.